The Victims Mentality

The victim’s mentality is a combination of viewing life in a negative way and in a way that makes it appear that you have no control over your circumstances. It is that constant focus on the past and what others have done to you. It is that constant belief that your emotions are controlled by some unknown force in the universe and you have no choice but to accept it. It is that “poor me” mindset that looks for continuous sensitivity for events that are now a part of the past.

The victim’s mentality is an acquired mentality, meaning it was not brought into this world with you, nor did it coincidentally fall upon you. The victim’s mentality is a deliberate way of viewing life and your circumstances that make you feel you have no control over your life, or the way you feel at this present moment.

When you lay down your choices, you victimize yourself!

-Regina Peacock

Chronic complaining is a central part of the victim’s mentality. When you view your situation as unchangeable then you behave as if you must accept what is happening to you- never realizing your options to leave a situation, change the situation or accept the situation. Any one of these choices will alleviate the need to complain!

The mind also has the ability to move on from what has happened to you and create positive change and happiness in your life. Yes, that is within your power! You also have it within you to stop relying on unreliable people, do it yourself, become resourceful and take responsibility for your own life. Other people are not responsible for your failures, so you should not blame others for your circumstances.

The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.”

Robertson Davies